Summary
Combining traditional Jewish wisdom with the most up-to-date scientific research on long-lasting relationships, Beyond the Chuppah is a hands-on guide for enriching Jewish and interfaith relationships. Based on the proven Prevention and Relationship Enhancement Program (PREP), the book shows couples how to recognize the special issues that are unique to Jewish and interfaith relationships and learn the skills they need to create a marriage that's intimate, loving, and fun. Using the practical tools found in this book, Jewish couples will discover how to "fight right" to resolve conflicts, improve their communication skills, do what's right for the children, and, most of all, appreciate the pleasure of each other's company.
Author Biography
Joel Crohn, Ph.D., is a trained PREP psychologist who specializes in working with Jewish and interfaith couples and is the author of Mixed Matches. Howard Markman, Ph.D., and Susan Blumberg, Ph.D., are marital experts who wrote the best-selling book Fighting for Your Marriage. Janice Levine, Ph.D., is a Jewish PREP trainer and therapist who teaches at Harvard Medical School.
Table of Contents
Foreword |
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Rabbi Harold M. Schulweis |
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Acknowledgments |
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Introduction: Why Is This Book Different from |
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All Other Books? |
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Creating a Positive Jewish Identity That Supports Your Marriage |
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1 | (24) |
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Four Key Patterns That Can Harm a Relationship |
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25 | (28) |
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Changing Roles, Changing Rules: Men and Women in Conflict |
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53 | (16) |
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Communicating Clearly and Safely: The Speaker-Listener Technique |
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69 | (28) |
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97 | (24) |
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Ground Rules for Handling Conflict |
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The Difference Between Issues and Events |
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133 | (24) |
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Unfulfilled Expectations and What to Do About Them |
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157 | (20) |
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177 | (22) |
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The Importance of Core Belief Systems: Judaism, Intermarriage, and Community |
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199 | (22) |
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Atonement, Forgiveness, and the Restoration of Intimacy |
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221 | (24) |
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Preserving and Protecting Friendship |
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245 | (12) |
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Overcoming the Fear of Fun |
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257 | (8) |
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265 | (18) |
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Ancient Wisdom and Modern Insights |
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283 | (2) |
Notes |
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285 | (6) |
Resources |
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291 | (6) |
More Information on the PREP Approach |
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297 | (2) |
About the Authors |
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299 | (2) |
Index |
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301 | |