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| Introduction |
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Leonard M. Zunin, MD, and Robert Strock, MFT |
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| Chapter One FROM PARADISE TO PANIC |
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It may be hard to hear, but the story of your life is primarily a story of dealing with fears. |
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These aren't the fears of today. |
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They're the fears of the subconscious, programmed by the mind-set of a four-year-old. |
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A happy ending can be written only by discovering yourself as you truly are in the present. |
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| Chapter Two THE NATURE or THE SUBCONSCIOUS |
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The subconscious constitutes about 99 percent of the mind. |
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The challenge lies in the fact that we identify with the 1 percent that makes up the conscious mind. |
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The subconscious mind is where our early defensive strategies originated and where they still remain a central influence. |
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Nevertheless, although as an adult you identify with the conscious mind, it's the subconscious mind that provides most of your programming and behavior. |
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The good news is that you can reprogram the subconscious. |
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| Chapter Three THE POUR-YEAR-OLD |
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Your defense system, personality, and most of your fears about survival solidified by about age four. |
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They once served you well, but since then, they mostly haven't changed and are undermining your adult self. |
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You can, however, teach your four-year-old that most of your fears are no longer based in reality. |
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| Chapter Four THE NATURE OF MEMORY |
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Memory is a kind of artificial reality. |
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It is not the original event—it never was and never will be. |
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In spite of this, the subconscious believes that the events seen in old inner photographs and movies are really happening right now. |
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They aren't! Helping the subconscious to see this, you are able to live more fully in the here and now. |
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| Chapter Five THE NATURE OF DESIRE |
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The major obstacle to being present in the moment is the chasing of desire. |
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Underneath every desire lies another one ultimately leading to the fear that you won't survive. |
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You need to help your four-year-old see that you are safe in this moment. |
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| Chapter Six ARE YOU A SELF-FULFILLING PROPHECY? |
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As a four-year-old you unconsciously created a "script" to guide your life, and you carefully continue to follow it. |
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The script has a beginning and middle, but it has no ending. |
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You repeat the same unfinished story endlessly. |
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If it looks as though the script will be completed, you somehow sabotage it to stay with what is familiar. |
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By releasing the old scripts and patterns, you open up to real life in the moment. |
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| Chapter Seven FEAR OF THE POSITIVE |
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Here's a paradox: beyond your desire to be happy, you also unconsciously hold on to your fears. |
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The strongest fear is your fear of the positive, your own potential. |
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The programs that keep you unhappy originated when you were dependent on others for your survival. |
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Restrictions and dependency always create fears. |
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| Chapter Eight LOVE, SEX, AND RELATIONSHIPS |
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Your need for an intimate relationship, surprisingly, doesn't have much to do with love for the other. |
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It primarily comes from neediness and concern for yourself. |
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It is more an expression of your early belief that your survival depends on someone else taking care of you. |
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True love is complete in itself. |
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When you realize this, being with the other will be based less and less on neediness. |
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| Chapter Nine THE SENSES |
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The world is what you see and feel at this moment. |
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Through your five senses, you detect real danger in the here and now. |
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Unfortunately, your mind often bases your sense of danger on prior experiences rather than on the sensory input of the moment. |
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If you listen to your senses, you'll find that there is seldom a danger in the present moment. |
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| Chapter Ten PRACTICAL ENLIGHTENMENT |
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You can be in one of two places: in memory or in the present moment. |
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One is a dream world, and one is reality. |
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All things exist only in the present. |
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| Chapter Eleven EXISTENCE IS DOING ALL THE WORK |
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Your concerns about survival begin to diminish when you become aware that you are no longer the helpless infant you used to be, but a capable adult. |
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Then you begin to recognize that miraculously, Existence is allowing your breathing, making your heart beat. |
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Everything truly important is being done for you. |
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Knowing that something greater than you is taking care of you, you can relax and trust. |
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| Chapter Twelve GRATITUDE |
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The origin of gratitude is in recognizing that you are surrounded by innumerable supports. |
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When you shift from feeling that you need something, you recognize that you are full and complete right now. |
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| Chapter Thirteen THE PRACTICES |
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The exercises and techniques in this chapter help bring awareness into focus. |
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This chapter is key to learning to put into practice the teachings discussed throughout the book. |
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| Afterword JERU'S DEATH: FINAL, REQUESTS |
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Here we learn about Jeru's remarkable last days and unique requests. |
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We are given a look into how Jeru lived his teachings in the days that lead up to his death, a living and dying manifestation of being in clarity. |
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| About the Author |
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| About the Editors |
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