Preface |
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PART ONE FOUNDATIONS OF INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION |
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1 | (28) |
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2 | (5) |
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3 | (1) |
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4 | (1) |
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4 | (1) |
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5 | (2) |
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The Communication Process |
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7 | (8) |
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7 | (1) |
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Insights from the Communication Model |
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7 | (2) |
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9 | (4) |
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Communication Misconceptions |
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13 | (2) |
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Interpersonal Communication Defined |
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15 | (5) |
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Quantitative and Qualitative Definitions |
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15 | (2) |
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Personal and Impersonal Communication: A Matter of Balance |
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17 | (1) |
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Interpersonal Communication and Technology |
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18 | (2) |
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20 | (4) |
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Communication Competence Defined |
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20 | (2) |
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Characteristics of Competent Communication |
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22 | (2) |
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24 | (1) |
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25 | (4) |
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Culture and Communication |
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29 | (26) |
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31 | (3) |
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31 | (1) |
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Intercultural Communication |
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32 | (1) |
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Interpersonal and Intercultural Communication |
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33 | (1) |
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Cultural Values and Norms |
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34 | (6) |
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34 | (2) |
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Individualism versus Collectivism |
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36 | (1) |
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37 | (1) |
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38 | (1) |
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Achievement versus Nurturing |
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39 | (1) |
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40 | (7) |
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40 | (4) |
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44 | (1) |
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44 | (3) |
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Developing Intercultural Communication Competence |
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47 | (5) |
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47 | (2) |
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49 | (1) |
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49 | (2) |
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51 | (1) |
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52 | (1) |
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53 | (2) |
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Communication and the Self |
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55 | (28) |
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Communication and the Self-Concept |
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56 | (13) |
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How the Self-Concept Develops |
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57 | (3) |
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Characteristics of the Self-Concept |
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60 | (4) |
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The Self-Fulfilling Prophecy and Communication |
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64 | (4) |
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Changing Your Self-Concept |
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68 | (1) |
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Presenting the Self: Communication as Identity Management |
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69 | (10) |
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Public and Private Selves |
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69 | (1) |
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Characteristics of Identity Management |
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69 | (5) |
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74 | (1) |
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How Do We Manage Impressions? |
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75 | (3) |
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Identity Management and Honesty |
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78 | (1) |
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79 | (1) |
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80 | (3) |
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83 | (30) |
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85 | (6) |
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85 | (1) |
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Steps in the Perception Process |
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86 | (5) |
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91 | (7) |
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91 | (3) |
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94 | (1) |
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95 | (2) |
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97 | (1) |
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Common Tendencies in Perception |
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98 | (5) |
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99 | (1) |
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We Cling to First Impressions |
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100 | (1) |
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We Judge Ourselves More Charitably Than We Do Others |
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101 | (1) |
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We Are Influenced by Our Expectations |
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102 | (1) |
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We Are Influenced by the Obvious |
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102 | (1) |
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We Assume Others Are Like Us |
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103 | (1) |
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Synchronizing Our Perceptions |
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103 | (6) |
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103 | (2) |
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105 | (4) |
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109 | (1) |
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109 | (4) |
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PART TWO CREATING AND RESPONDING TO MESSAGES |
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113 | (32) |
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114 | (5) |
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114 | (1) |
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Language is Rule-Governed |
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115 | (1) |
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116 | (1) |
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117 | (2) |
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119 | (7) |
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119 | (2) |
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121 | (1) |
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Affiliation, Attraction, and Interest |
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121 | (2) |
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123 | (1) |
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124 | (2) |
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Uses (and Abuses) of Language |
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126 | (11) |
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126 | (6) |
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The Language of Responsibility |
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132 | (3) |
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135 | (2) |
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137 | (5) |
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Extent of Gender Differences |
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137 | (4) |
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Accounting for Gender Differences |
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141 | (1) |
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142 | (1) |
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142 | (3) |
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145 | (28) |
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Nonverbal Communication Defined |
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146 | (2) |
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Characteristics of Nonverbal Communication |
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148 | (4) |
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All Behavior Has Communicative Value |
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148 | (1) |
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Nonverbal Communication is Primarily Relational |
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149 | (2) |
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Nonverbal Communication is Ambiguous |
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151 | (1) |
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Nonverbal Communication is Influenced by Culture |
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151 | (1) |
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Functions of Nonverbal Communication |
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152 | (5) |
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Creating and Maintaining Relationships |
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154 | (1) |
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154 | (1) |
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155 | (1) |
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155 | (2) |
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157 | (1) |
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Types of Nonverbal Communication |
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157 | (12) |
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158 | (1) |
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158 | (2) |
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160 | (1) |
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161 | (2) |
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163 | (2) |
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165 | (1) |
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166 | (1) |
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166 | (2) |
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168 | (1) |
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169 | (1) |
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169 | (1) |
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170 | (3) |
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Listening: Understanding and Supporting Others |
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173 | (32) |
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174 | (4) |
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The Importance of Listening |
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174 | (1) |
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175 | (2) |
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177 | (1) |
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The Challenge of Listening |
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178 | (3) |
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178 | (1) |
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All Listeners Do Not Receive the Same Message |
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179 | (1) |
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180 | (1) |
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181 | (2) |
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181 | (1) |
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182 | (1) |
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182 | (1) |
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183 | (1) |
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183 | (1) |
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Types of Listening Responses |
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183 | (17) |
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184 | (1) |
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184 | (4) |
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188 | (2) |
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190 | (2) |
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192 | (2) |
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194 | (1) |
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194 | (1) |
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195 | (2) |
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197 | (3) |
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200 | (1) |
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201 | (4) |
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205 | (28) |
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206 | (3) |
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206 | (1) |
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207 | (1) |
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Cognitive Interpretations |
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207 | (1) |
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208 | (1) |
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Influences on Emotional Expression |
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209 | (5) |
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209 | (1) |
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210 | (1) |
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Biological Sex and Gender |
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211 | (1) |
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212 | (1) |
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213 | (1) |
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213 | (1) |
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214 | (1) |
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Guidelines for Expressing Emotions |
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214 | (6) |
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215 | (1) |
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216 | (2) |
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218 | (1) |
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Recognize the Difference between Feeling and Acting |
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219 | (1) |
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Accept Responsibility for Your Feelings |
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219 | (1) |
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Choose the Best Time and Place to Express Your Feelings |
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219 | (1) |
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Managing Difficult Emotions |
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220 | (9) |
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Facilitative and Debilitative Emotions |
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220 | (1) |
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221 | (2) |
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Irrational Thinking and Debilitative Emotions |
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223 | (4) |
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Minimizing Debilitative Emotions |
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227 | (2) |
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229 | (1) |
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230 | (3) |
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PART THREE DIMENSIONS OF INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS |
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Dynamics of Interpersonal Relationships |
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233 | (34) |
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Why We Form Relationships |
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235 | (5) |
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235 | (1) |
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236 | (1) |
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236 | (1) |
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237 | (1) |
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238 | (1) |
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239 | (1) |
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239 | (1) |
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Communication and Relational Dynamics |
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240 | (14) |
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Developmental Models of Interpersonal Relationships |
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240 | (6) |
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Communication and Relational Maintenance |
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246 | (2) |
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Dialectical Perspectives on Relational Dynamics |
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248 | (6) |
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Communicating about Relationships |
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254 | (1) |
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Content and Relational Messages |
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254 | (1) |
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Expression of Relational Messages |
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254 | (1) |
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Compliance-Gaining in Interpersonal Relationships |
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255 | (8) |
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Types of Compliance-Gaining Strategies |
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256 | (5) |
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Which Strategy to Choose? |
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261 | (2) |
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263 | (1) |
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264 | (3) |
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Intimacy and Distance in Relationships |
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267 | (34) |
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Intimacy and Distance: Striking a Balance |
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268 | (3) |
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268 | (1) |
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269 | (1) |
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The Dialectics of Intimacy and Distance |
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270 | (1) |
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Influences on Intimacy and Distance |
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271 | (3) |
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Male and Female Intimacy Styles |
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271 | (2) |
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Cultural Influences on Intimacy |
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273 | (1) |
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Self-Disclosure in Relationships |
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274 | (12) |
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A Definition of Self-Disclosure |
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275 | (1) |
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Degrees of Self-Disclosure |
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276 | (2) |
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A Model of Self-Disclosure |
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278 | (2) |
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Risks and Benefits of Self-Disclosure |
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280 | (6) |
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Alternatives to Self-Disclosure |
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286 | (9) |
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286 | (1) |
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287 | (3) |
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290 | (2) |
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292 | (1) |
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293 | (2) |
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Guidelines for Self-Disclosure |
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295 | (1) |
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Is the Other Person Important to You? |
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295 | (1) |
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Is the Risk of Disclosing Reasonable? |
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295 | (1) |
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Is the Self-Disclosure Appropriate? |
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295 | (1) |
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Is the Disclosure Relevant to the Situation at Hand? |
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295 | (1) |
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Is the Disclosure Reciprocated? |
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296 | (1) |
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Will the Effect Be Constructive? |
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296 | (1) |
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Is the Self-Disclosure Clear and Understandable? |
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296 | (1) |
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296 | (2) |
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298 | (3) |
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301 | (32) |
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What is Communication Climate? |
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302 | (1) |
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How Communication Climates Develop |
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303 | (10) |
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Levels of Message Confirmation |
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303 | (6) |
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309 | (2) |
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311 | (1) |
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312 | (1) |
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Creating Positive Climates |
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313 | (7) |
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Evaluation versus Description |
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313 | (2) |
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Control versus Problem Orientation |
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315 | (1) |
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Strategy versus Spontaneity |
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316 | (1) |
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Neutrality versus Empathy |
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317 | (1) |
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Superiority versus Equality |
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318 | (1) |
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Certainty versus Provisionalism |
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319 | (1) |
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Transforming Negative Climates |
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320 | (9) |
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320 | (4) |
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324 | (5) |
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329 | (1) |
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329 | (4) |
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333 | (31) |
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334 | (3) |
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334 | (1) |
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Perceived Incompatible Goals |
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334 | (1) |
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335 | (1) |
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335 | (1) |
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335 | (2) |
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Functional and Dysfunctional Conflicts |
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337 | (3) |
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Integration versus Polarization |
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337 | (1) |
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Cooperation versus Opposition |
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337 | (1) |
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Confirmation versus Disconfirmation |
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338 | (1) |
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Agreement versus Coercion |
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338 | (1) |
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De-Escalation versus Escalation |
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338 | (1) |
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339 | (1) |
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Foresight versus Shortsightedness |
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339 | (1) |
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Positive versus Negative Results |
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339 | (1) |
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340 | (9) |
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341 | (1) |
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342 | (1) |
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342 | (3) |
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Compromise (Negotiated Lose-Lose) |
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345 | (1) |
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346 | (1) |
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347 | (2) |
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Conflict in Relational Systems |
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349 | (5) |
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Complementary, Symmetrical, and Parallel Styles |
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349 | (3) |
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Intimate and Aggressive Styles |
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352 | (1) |
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353 | (1) |
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Variables in Conflict Styles |
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354 | (4) |
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355 | (1) |
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356 | (2) |
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Conflict Management in Practice |
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358 | (3) |
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361 | (1) |
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362 | (2) |
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APPENDIX ONE Communication in Families |
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364 | (14) |
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Types of Family Communication |
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365 | (4) |
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365 | (1) |
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366 | (2) |
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368 | (1) |
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Elements of Family Communication |
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369 | (5) |
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Families as Communication Systems |
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369 | (1) |
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370 | (1) |
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371 | (1) |
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Models for Other Relationships |
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371 | (1) |
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372 | (2) |
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Effective Communication in Families |
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374 | (3) |
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Strive for Closeness While Respecting Boundaries |
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374 | (1) |
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Strive for a Moderate Level of Adaptability |
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375 | (1) |
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Encourage Confirming Messages |
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375 | (1) |
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Deal Constructively with Conflict |
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376 | (1) |
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377 | (1) |
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APPENDIX TWO Interpersonal Communication at Work |
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378 | (15) |
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Communicating in Organizations |
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379 | (2) |
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Formal and Informal Relationships |
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379 | (2) |
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Face-to-Face and Mediated Relationships |
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381 | (1) |
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381 | (3) |
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382 | (1) |
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Offering Constructive Feedback |
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382 | (2) |
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Relationships in Work Groups |
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384 | (2) |
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Personal Skills in Work Groups |
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384 | (1) |
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385 | (1) |
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Leadership, Power, and Influence in Working Groups |
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386 | (1) |
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386 | (5) |
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387 | (1) |
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388 | (2) |
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390 | (1) |
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391 | (2) |
Glossary |
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393 | (9) |
References |
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402 | (43) |
Credits |
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445 | (2) |
Author Index |
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447 | (8) |
Subject Index |
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