“ Can you love more than one person?” A lot of conversations about nonmonogamy start this way. When we discuss “ opening” relationships, contemplate whether we want to be exclusive with our partners, or introduce multiple partners to friends and family, we are asking the people in our lives, and ourselves, to contend with this question. The answer is obvious, and misleading. The love one feels in their heart and the love one expresses through daily acts of care and affection are both “ love” in the true sense, but they have different requirements, present different options and produce different outcomes. More Than Two can’ t promise outcomes, but it is a guide to the paths— from anchor or nesting partnerships to relationship anarchy— possible within nonmonogamy. This long-awaited second edition bridges emerging theories on attachment and relationship diversity with authors Eve Rickert and Andrea Zanin’ s insight and experience. The arcs of nonmonogamous partnerships bend towards complexity, introspection and compromise— or at least they can, if we work at it.

Eve Rickert is a Gen X, queer, solo polyamorous, relationship anarchist, neurodivergent cis woman living on unceded W_SÁ NEC and Lekwungen territory on the west coast of the place currently known as Canada. She is the curator of the More Than Two Essentials series and the nonmonogamy resource site morethantwo.ca, the founder and publisher of Thornapple Press, and the founder and mastermind of the science communications firm Talk Science to Me. Andrea Zanin, MA, is a queer writer who focuses on nonmonogamy and BDSM/Leather. Andrea has written for the Globe and Mail, The Tyee, Bitch, Ms., Xtra, IN Magazine, Outlooks Magazine and the Montreal Mirror. Their scholarly work, fiction and essays appear in a variety of collections. Andrea blogs at sexgeek.wordpress.com, where they created the 10 Rules for Happy Nonmonogamy and coined the term “ polynormativity.”

Foreword xiEve’s Preface and Acknowledgements xiiiAndrea’s Preface and Acknowledgements xxiIntroduction 1Part 1 Laying Your Foundation 131 Choosing Nonmonogamy 152 Finding Your Compass (or, Don’t Be Mean) 313 Abuse 58Part 2 A Nonmonogamy Toolkit 874 Tending Your Self 895 Nurturing Your Relationships 1116 Communication Pitfalls 1227 Communication Strategies 1378 Befriending the Green- Eyed Monster 155Part 3 N onmonogamous Frameworks 1659 Boundaries 16710 Rules and Agreements 18411 Hierarchy and Primary/Secondary Polyamory 20112 Veto Arrangements 22613 Empowered Relationships 24014 Practical Nonmonogamy Agreements 253Part 4 T he Nonmonogamous Reality 27115 How Nonmonogamous Relationships Are Different 27316 Opening from a Couple 29417 Mono/Poly Relationships 30918 Finding Partners 32119 Life in the Polycule 33220 Sex, Pleasure, Risk and Health 35321 Relationship Transitions 382The Future of Nonmonogamy 397Glossary 400Notes 407Resources 419Index 429